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Why Am I So Self-Critical?

notebook and mirror symbolising self reflection and self criticism psychology

Many people ask “Why am I so self-critical?” especially when they feel stuck in patterns of overthinking, shame, or harsh self-judgement. This voice can make it difficult to feel good enough, even when things are going well.

Where self-criticism comes from

  • perfectionism

  • early relational patterns

  • trauma

  • shame

  • fear of rejection

What self-criticism does psychologically

  • increased anxiety

  • rumination

  • emotional exhaustion

  • difficulty feeling satisfied or secure

What helps soften the inner critic

  • compassion-focused work

  • emotional awareness

  • trauma-informed approaches

  • therapy

If self-criticism feels relentless or exhausting, therapy can offer a space to understand where these patterns come from and develop a kinder internal voice.

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